At What Point Do I, As The Therapist, Become Part of the Problem?

Thirty years I’ve sat in this chair, listened, empathized, and tried to guide people out of the labyrinth of addiction. Thirty years of striving for unconditional positive regard, empathy, and congruence. But lately, a nagging question has been echoing in my mind: at what point do I, the supposed guide, become part of the very problem I’m trying to solve?
We, as therapists, are taught to be the safe harbor, the non-judgmental ear. We create a space where clients can unravel their deepest fears and vulnerabilities. But what happens when that space becomes a comfortable cage, a place where they can confess their struggles without facing the real-world consequences?
The core condition of congruence, that cornerstone of therapeutic practice, tells me that I have a responsibility to be honest, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s about acknowledging the elephant in the room. And in the realm of addiction, that elephant often takes the form of isolation and secrecy.
I’ve learned, through countless sessions and heartbreaking stories, that recovery begins with vulnerability. It begins with telling the people we love, the people we’ve hurt, the truth about our struggles. It’s about breaking down the walls of denial and admitting, “I’m in the shit.”
But what if my client, sitting across from me, confesses their awareness of their addiction, yet vehemently refuses to share it with their family, their partner, their closest friends? What if I become the sole recipient of their truth, the keeper of their secret?
That’s when the uncomfortable truth dawns on me: I’m enabling them. I’m becoming a part of the problem.
By allowing them to confine their struggle to the therapy room, I’m inadvertently reinforcing their isolation. I’m providing a safe space for them to avoid the difficult conversations, the necessary confrontations, the essential steps towards real recovery.
It’s a delicate balance, this therapeutic relationship. We strive to create a safe space, but we must also challenge our clients to step outside of it. We must encourage them to extend their vulnerability beyond the confines of our office, into the messy, complicated world where true healing takes place.
It’s not about judgment or blame. It’s about recognizing the insidious nature of addiction, how it thrives in secrecy and isolation. And it’s about acknowledging my own role in perpetuating that cycle.
I’ve learned that sometimes, the most compassionate thing I can do is to challenge my clients, to push them beyond their comfort zones. To remind them that true recovery requires them to step out of the shadows and into the light.
It’s not easy. It requires courage, from both the client and the therapist. But it’s the only way to break free from the chains of addiction.
This journey has taught me that being a therapist isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being honest, about acknowledging my own limitations and blind spots. It’s about constantly questioning my role and ensuring that I’m truly serving my clients’ best interests.
And sometimes, that means admitting that I, too, can be part of the problem. And then, working to be part of the solution.

If you are struggling with addiction and want a therapist that will lovingly challenge to best your addiction then contact me at

victoriaabadi66@victoria-abadi

Codependency, a pattern of behavior where one person enables or try’s to control another’s destructive habits, is often attracted to relationships marked by substance misuse. This complex dynamic can be deeply damaging to both individuals involved.

Understanding Codependency

Codependency is rooted in an unhealthy reliance on another person for emotional fulfillment. In relationships with substance misuse, this often manifests as a desperate desire to “fix” the addicted individual. Codependents may prioritize the needs of the substance abuser above their own, neglecting their well-being in the process.

Common signs of codependency include:

• People-pleasing: Constantly seeking approval and validation from the substance abuser.
• Difficulty setting boundaries: Struggling to say “no” or assert personal needs.
• Fear of abandonment: Intense anxiety about losing the relationship, even if it’s harmful.
• Taking on responsibility: Assuming blame or guilt for the substance abuser’s actions.
• Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate or unworthy outside the relationship.

The Impact of Codependency

Codependency can perpetuate a cycle of addiction. By enabling or trying to control the substance abuser, the codependent inadvertently reinforces unhealthy behaviors. This can lead to:

• Neglect of personal needs: The codependent’s own emotional and physical health deteriorates.
• Financial strain: Sacrificing financial resources to support the substance abuser’s habit.
• Isolation: Withdrawal from social circles due to the demands of the relationship.
• Emotional turmoil: Constant stress, anxiety, and fear associated with the substance abuser’s behavior.

Breaking Free from Codependency

Breaking free from codependency is a challenging but rewarding process. It involves:

• Self-awareness: Recognizing the patterns of codependent behavior.
• Setting boundaries: Establishing limits and asserting personal needs.
• Building self-esteem: Developing a strong sense of self-worth.
• Seeking support: Joining support groups or therapy to address underlying issues.
• Encouraging professional help: Supporting the substance abuser in seeking treatment.

It’s crucial to remember that recovery is possible for both the codependent and the substance abuser. By addressing codependency, individuals can reclaim their lives and build healthier relationships.

If you or someone you know is struggling with codependency or substance misuse, please seek professional help. There are resources available to support your journey to recovery.

I provide a free 20 minute telephone consultation. If you would like to speak to me please contact me on 07983726647

Would you like to know more about specific strategies for breaking free from codependency or about the impact of codependency on children?

Codependency, often associated with romantic relationships, can also be a significant issue between parents and their adult children. This unhealthy dynamic can create a complex and emotionally draining situation for both parties.   

Understanding Codependency

Codependency is a pattern of behavior where one person relies on another for their emotional well-being, often at the expense of their own needs. In the context of parent-child relationships, this can manifest in various ways:   

Overinvolvement: Parents may become overly involved in their adult children’s lives, offering unsolicited advice, financial support, or emotional assistance.

Enmeshment: The boundaries between parent and child become blurred, leading to a sense of fusion rather than individuality.

Lack of autonomy: The adult child may struggle to make independent decisions or establish their own identity due to the parent’s constant influence.   

Emotional reliance: Both the parent and child may rely on each other for emotional support, rather than developing healthy coping mechanisms.

Fear of abandonment: The parent may fear losing their child, while the child may feel guilty about setting boundaries.

The Impact of Codependency

Codependency can have detrimental effects on both the parent and the adult child. It can hinder personal growth, prevent the development of healthy relationships, and lead to feelings of resentment, guilt, and inadequacy.   

For the Parent: A codependent parent may experience a loss of identity, as their self-worth becomes tied to their child’s success or happiness. They may also struggle with loneliness and depression when their child becomes more independent.

For the Adult Child: A codependent adult child may find it difficult to establish their own identity, make their own decisions, or form healthy relationships. They may also feel resentful or obligated towards their parent.   

Breaking Free from Codependency

Breaking the cycle of codependency requires effort from both the parent and the adult child. Here are some steps that can help:

Setting Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries is crucial for both parties. This involves communicating expectations and limits respectfully.

Developing Independence: The adult child needs to work on becoming more self-reliant and making their own decisions.

Building Self-Esteem: Both the parent and child need to develop a strong sense of self-worth and identity.

Seeking Support: Therapy or counseling can provide valuable tools and guidance for overcoming codependency.   

It’s important to remember that breaking free from codependency is a process that takes time and patience. With understanding, support, and a commitment to change, it is possible to build healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

If you or someone you know is struggling with codependency or substance misuse, please seek professional help. There are resources available to support your journey to recovery.

I provide a free 20 minute telephone consultation. If you would like to speak to me please contact me on 07983726647

Do you struggle with addictive tendencies? Do you find yourself only able to complete things when there’s a deadline in place, procrastinate over boring tasks but equally get caught up in things that are enjoyable to you? Almost to the point of obsession! It may be that you are one of the 2 to 4% of adults that have ADHD. 

I have worked in the field of addiction for over 30 years and have been a qualified addiction therapist for 25 of those years. I remember hearing the term ADHD for  the first time almost 30 years ago. It was from a friend who had just been diagnosed with it. To be honest I thought it was a nicer way of calling someone an attention seeker! I was also really worried that it could be used as a way of minimising addiction. Over 30 years later and thankfully I’ve learnt so much more about both addiction and ADHD. It turns out that ADHD has nothing to do with attention seeking and everything to do with struggling to keep your attention focused on things that are either difficult or somewhat boring and challenging to you. 

Have you ever had a school report that said ‘…… does not concentrate’? Disclaimer: ADHD does not mean you didn’t do well in school or can’t become a high achiever. It probably does mean that if you found a subject challenging and that  subject didn’t ‘light you up’ that you would have found it very difficult to focus and concentrate on it. 

Have you ever been called a daydreamer? Daydreaming is a way of dissociating from difficult tasks and is very common with people with ADHD. Neuro typical persons also daydream. They also procrastinate and can become obsessive over enjoyable things. When you add risky, impulsive behaviours such as addiction into the mix you are possibly looking at ADHD. It can be difficult to know what’s what because so many ADHD symptoms are also things that most of the population struggle with from time to time. Having ADHD means you have less dopamine than a Neuro typical person thus are more likely to get your ‘feel goods’ from addictive behaviours such a substance use, gambling or sex addiction. (We could substitute the aforementioned addictions for workaholism, gym addiction, shopping addiction, food addiction, phone addiction etc). All the above hit the pleasure reward spot in the brain – the part of the brain that creates and releases dopamine. If you have less dopamine than what is considered the normal amount it then makes sense that you may keep returning to a behaviour that stimulates those feel good chemicals. In time that behaviour may turn into an addiction. Addiction is when that behaviour no longer feels like a choice. You begin to feel obsessed and compelled to carry out that behaviour. You begin to ‘act out’ in order to feel ok. 

Many of my clients have to make a choice between controlled use of their addiction or abstinence from it. Every client is different and needs a different course of treatment. It is my role to explore with my clients whether they can control their ‘use’ or not. What I have found is that those clients who present with ADHD symptoms do not always fit into the classic mold of the ‘addict’. And by that I mean that they are able to have control of their use at some points rather than the 12 step philosophy that states that more often than not when someone takes that first drink/drug/gamble/bit of sugar etc – it will set off a physical compulsion and a mental obsession to consume/act out more. Those with ADHD may actually have addictive tendencies rather than be struggling with addiction. Therefore if the correct diagnosis and treatment is sought and given they may be able to have control over their use in the future. It is only through a comprehensive assessment – exploring a person’s past experiences that a plan of action can be agreed. Many of my clients have both ADHD and addiction in which case abstinence may well be the only way forward. 

For a full addiction assessment please get in touch via email at Victoriaabadi66@gmail.com

For an ADHD assessment please contact your GP or private specialist ADHD consultant psychiatrist. 

Worried about your drinking during covid 19 lockdown?

I have been in the very fortunate position of being able to continue to work all the way through covid 19 lockdown. I don’t say this to show off or brag but to display how I’ve been on the cutting edge of hearing and seeing people’s responses to it at a first hand therapeutic level. What it has meant is that right from day one I have been able to see and hear what the effect of this global pandemic and subsequent social isolating measures has had on my client group. Not only have I had that first hand experience of seeing it, I’ve also had my phone ringing with new clients looking to get advice and support for their anxiety and often related increase in drinking.

Many of these new enquiries are telling me that they are really worried about their increase in drinking. My first question to them is ‘do you know why you are drinking more?’ A few have replied because of boredom and the sun has been shining. I am less worried about these clients and I will talk about why that is in the next paragraph. It is those enquiries that answer the ‘do you know why question’ with the following responses that I’m more concerned about. These responses are ‘my anxiety is through the roof’, ‘ I can’t seem to cope without it’, ‘everyday I tell myself today I will have a day off but then it gets to the afternoon and I think god no I can’t handle this without a drink’, ‘everyone else is managing this better than me’, ‘I feel like a failure’, ‘I’m having lots of disturbing memories’. We are going through a collective trauma, that is bringing up profound grief, loss, panic over livelihoods, panic over loss of lives of loved ones. People’s nervous systems are barely coping with the sense of threat and vigilance for safety, or alternating with feeling numb and frozen and shutting down in response to it all. People are trying to survive poverty, fear, retriggering of trauma, retriggering of other mental health difficulties. When a prospective client calls me and starts to talk about how the covid 19 has started to trigger old negative thoughts, feelings and responses I realise there may well be a need for therapy.

I am often asked if I am fearful that there will be a massive spike in problematic drinking once lock down is lifted. My experience and relevant research shows that the majority of people will return to normal patterns of drinking once they return to their usual routine. Many of these people are drinking because of lack of routine, they may be bored, they may well be aware it doesn’t matter too much if they feel a bit rough the next day and of course the sun has been shining. And what do many people do when the sun shines – drink more. These guys are not drinking because they feel they can’t cope without it. If they were to choose not to drink it wouldn’t be that big a deal. Then there is the cohort of people who are using drink as a crutch as a coping mechanism to get through the day/evening. This group may need some extra support in a therapeutic setting to look at developing new coping skills that will help them in feeling more resilient. This group will likely split in to two groups. Those that will not go on to have a problem with drinking but could struggle with anxiety and or other mental health related problems and those that will continue to use alcohol at a more dependent level once the covid 19 crisis passes. Both these groups would benefit from some psychological input.

Working with old emotional wounds and trauma is my field of experience. This pandemic is a trauma for many just on its own. Add past traumatic life experiences into the mix and we start to see people using faulty coping strategies to survive. I work with trauma in various ways. Using talk therapy to express how the individual feels about their experiences and by using mindfulness approaches such as meditation and mindful enquires to see how the body has processed the hurt and/or trauma. When we work at both these levels we can begin to heal both the mind and the body.

if you are worried about your drinking or any other addictive behaviour please don’t hesitate to contact me on 07983726647 or at victoriaabadi66@gmail.com. I’m here to listen.

Have you ever heard that expression ‘if there was a room full of men or women you can bet your bottom dollar I’d be attracted to the most unavailable one in the room.’ Could this even possibly be true? Well actually yes it could. Within 5 minutes of meeting a person they will remind us of our relationships with a primary caregiver. If you have suffered either physical or emotional abandonment as a child there will be people whom we meet that we immediately feel attracted to. There will be something about them that reminds us of a feeling we had as a child. This feeling may not even be wholly conscious. Usually this will be an uncomfortable feeling but we probably will not recognise it as this. We are more likely to recognise it as a feeling of wanting to get closer to this person. The mind is incredibly complex in the way it processes information. Across the room it may look like to an observer that you are just having a friendly chat with someone you have just met. In fact your mind is quietly thinking I recognise this person, I know this feeling, I want to get closer to this person as there is something about this feeling that has not been resolved from my past. This attraction you are feeling is in fact the minds way of trying to solve what was a traumatic event to you in childhood. It will be trying to get you to form a relationship with this person who reminds you of that primary caregiver who either physically or emotionally abandoned you. The reason for this is that the mind thinks if it gets you close to this person then perhaps you can rewrite history by making this new person stay in relationship with you. The problem is that the whole reason you have been attracted to this person in the first place is because they are unable to be emotionally available. So history repeats itself. You try to get close to this person but due to their own issues they
will ultimately abandon you just as that primary caregiver did.

Have you ever experienced the above. Do you find yourself attracted to the same type of person over and over again to find that the result is always the same. Pain and abandonment. It can be extremely helpful to understand your patterns in order to change them. Once we become aware of why we are attracted to certain individuals we can start working on ways to change that.

Please contact me on 07983726647 or at victoriaabadi66@gmail.com if you would like to start changing self defeating patterns of behaviour.

Why We Practice Mindfulness in Groups

Human being are essentially social beings that in most cases need interaction with other human beings in order to be able to function optimally. Originally we lived in large tribal groups where all our social interactions were met within the tribal community. As time passed and humans began to settle more in one place we saw villages and towns spring up. It was the norm to have all of your extended family around you and again for the human need for social connection to be met within these types of community. With the advent of motorised transport people became much more free to be able to live in different areas from their family and often their friends. This could then mean that they had less access to support and community. Add to this the advent of social media and what we are seeing is even more of a break down of social communities. Human beings are becoming more isolated as these types of communities are becoming less common. And as a result of this we have begun to see a huge increase in mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety and addictive processes. Connecting with other human beings helps us feel ‘part of’ the human race and can significantly help with a wide variety of mental health conditions. I include substance misuse as a mental health condition as we now know that the neural pathways of the brain are altered when we continue to use a substance that triggers the excessive release of dopamine. One of the main characteristics of chronic, prolonged substance misuse is that the user begins to become more and more isolated. I work primarily with people who have problems with substance misuse or other behavioural addictions. Encouraging this cohort of people to work within groups can be a vital part of their recovery as very often it is their first step towards feeling part of the human race again. Gabor Mate, one of the leading lights in addiction research states that in its simplest form that ‘the antidote to addiction is connection’. Gabor Mate – In the Realm of the Hungry Ghost – 2009. Mindfulness practiced in a group can help an awareness grow that ‘we are in this together’ thus motivating individuals to keep on practicing as they feel they are not alone, that they are more connected and thus less isolated. When mindful inquiry is practiced in groups it can again allow the individual to feel less alone and more connected when they are able to hear and identify with others experiences and feelings. Hearing other people express their feelings and experiences can also allow other perspectives to enter into the consciousness thus challenging negative beliefs that the individual is in some way less than everyone else. Another of the characteristics of addiction is that many who suffer with the condition also suffer with deep rooted shame, often believing that they are inherently flawed. Mindful inquiry within the group can often help them to challenge this belief by hearing others share their own feelings and judgement of these feelings. When we connect on this deep level – hearing another human being judge themselves so harshly we are often able to have compassion for that person. If we are able through the meditative practice to be able to direct this same compassion towards ourselves we can start to break down the shame cycle. Donald McCown, co-author of Teaching Mindfulness: A Practical Guide for Clinicians and Educators has made the point that participants of mindfulness groups see it as a group activity and that’s one reason they want to come back. He states that
‘They have a group to bring back their experiences to, which takes them out of the echo chamber of their own minds. A mind which is often clouded with self doubt and recriminations’. One of the main benefits of group meditation is hearing other people’s struggles with their practice. Hearing another person share that they feel like they are rubbish at it too can again alleviate that feeling of shame and allow the individual to recognise they are not the only ones who are not perfect. McCown also states that facilitators need to be able to facilitate discussion and discovery not simply serve as the person who has all the answers. Group participants discovering their own answers is often much more beneficial. It is also of great importance to be able to sit with not knowing all the answers – being able to sit with discomfort and understanding ‘it’s ok to not be ok’ is a whole lot easier when you know through the group experience that you are not on your own with feeling this. Addiction is, in most situations, about an individual not being able to sit with discomfort. The substance or behaviour is very often their solution to their problem of being able to sit with difficult feelings and emotions. Ultimately the substance/behaviour becomes a bigger problem in its own right thus leaving the person with two problems – the substance/behaviour and their inability to self soothe. They have to learn to sit with uncomfortableness without ‘numbing’. Mindfulness enables them to begin to learn how to be more present in the moment without preference. Being a member of a group where other people also struggle with being able to sit with discomfort again makes the participant feel less alone, less anxious and less weird thus providing an environment where change can begin to occur.
Often mindful groups take place in neutral surroundings away from the distractions of the individual’s home setting thus allowing the mind to be able to settle more readily. Also if you struggle with feeling distracted it can be very beneficial to practice in a group where you can pick up on the energy frequencies within the group. Calm energy from others may allow the individual to feel more centred. There have been many studies done on the benefits of meditation in communities with the findings often coming back that the ripple effect of the calming properties of group mindfulness can effect whole communities reducing violence and aggression. The group can collectively unify to have a common goal – even if it’s just to be more relaxed.

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It is such a paradox to call comfort eating comfort eating. We understand that addiction is always about feeling uncomfortable and reaching towards something to take the discomfort away. Whether that be the minor discomfort of boredom or the extreme discomfort of grief. Either way a much more accurate term would be ‘numbing eating’. Initially reaching for your ‘food of choice’ may feel comforting but when you reach for that same substance time and time again, day in day out it becomes increasingly more painful. Eventually the pain of the addictive behaviour outweighs any pleasure or comfort you may have originally felt and you end up with two problems. The initial discomfort you were trying to avoid and the pain of repeating a self defeating behaviour.

It is imperative when working with any form of addiction that the sufferer learns to sit with discomfort. Conversely the more you are able to sit with discomfort the quicker the discomfort passes. I am a qualified mindfulness teacher and an integrative cbt practitioner. I combine mindfulness/ ACT with cbt techniques in order to address the addiction from a two pronged approach. I use mindfulness and Acceptance Commitment Therapy in order to be able to sit with uncomfortableness and be able to accept the present moment just as it is without needing to reach to something to change your reality. The cbt approach enables you to challenge negative core beliefs about yourself, which in turn affects how we feel which has a knock on effect of changing the way you behave.

If you would like to address an addiction of any kind please feeel free to contact me at victoriaabadi66@gmail.com or call me on 07983726647.

Human being are essentially social beings that in most cases need interaction with other human beings in order to be able to function optimally. Originally we lived in large tribal groups where all our social interactions were met within the tribal community. As time passed and humans began to settle more in one place we saw villages and towns spring up. It was the norm to have all of your extended family around you and again for the human need for social connection to be met within these types of community. With the advent of motorised transport people became much more free to be able to live in different areas from their family and often their friends. This could then mean that they had less access to support and community. Add to this the advent of social media and what we are seeing is even more of a break down of social communities. Human beings are becoming more isolated as these types of communities are becoming less common. And as a result of this we have begun to see a huge increase in mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety and addictive processes. Connecting with other human beings helps us feel ‘part of’ the human race and can significantly help with a wide variety of mental health conditions. I include substance misuse as a mental health condition as we now know that the neural pathways of the brain are altered when we continue to use a substance that triggers the excessive release of dopamine. One of the main characteristics of chronic, prolonged substance misuse is that the user begins to become more and more isolated. I work primarily with people who have problems with substance misuse or other behavioural addictions. Encouraging this cohort of people to work within groups can be a vital part of their recovery as very often it is their first step towards feeling part of the human race again. Gabor Mate, one of the leading lights in addiction research states that in its simplest form that ‘the antidote to addiction is connection’. Gabor Mate – In the Realm of the Hungry Ghost – 2009. Mindfulness practiced in a group can help an awareness grow that ‘we are in this together’ thus motivating individuals to keep on practicing as they feel they are not alone, that they are more connected and thus less isolated. When mindful inquiry is practiced in groups it can again allow the individual to feel less alone and more connected when they are able to hear and identify with others experiences and feelings. Hearing other people express their feelings and experiences can also allow other perspectives to enter into the consciousness thus challenging negative beliefs that the individual is in some way less than everyone else. Another of the characteristics of addiction is that many who suffer with the condition also suffer with deep rooted shame, often believing that they are inherently flawed. Mindful inquiry within the group can often help them to challenge this belief by hearing others share their own feelings and judgement of these feelings. When we connect on this deep level – hearing another human being judge themselves so harshly we are often able to have compassion for that person. If we are able through the meditative practice to be able to direct this same compassion towards ourselves we can start to break down the shame cycle. Donald McCown, co-author of Teaching Mindfulness: A Practical Guide for Clinicians and Educators has made the point that participants of mindfulness groups see it as a group activity and that’s one reason they want to come back. He states that
‘They have a group to bring back their experiences to, which takes them out of the echo chamber of their own minds. A mind which is often clouded with self doubt and recriminations’. One of the main benefits of group meditation is hearing other people’s struggles with their practice. Hearing another person share that they feel like they are rubbish at it too can again alleviate that feeling of shame and allow the individual to recognise they are not the only ones who are not perfect. McCown also states that facilitators need to be able to facilitate discussion and discovery not simply serve as the person who has all the answers. Group participants discovering their own answers is often much more beneficial. It is also of great importance to be able to sit with not knowing all the answers – being able to sit with discomfort and understanding ‘it’s ok to not be ok’ is a whole lot easier when you know through the group experience that you are not on your own with feeling this. Addiction is, in most situations, about an individual not being able to sit with discomfort. The substance or behaviour is very often their solution to their problem of being able to sit with difficult feelings and emotions. Ultimately the substance/behaviour becomes a bigger problem in its own right thus leaving the person with two problems – the substance/behaviour and their inability to self soothe. They have to learn to sit with uncomfortableness without ‘numbing’. Mindfulness enables them to begin to learn how to be more present in the moment without preference. Being a member of a group where other people also struggle with being able to sit with discomfort again makes the participant feel less alone, less anxious and less weird thus providing an environment where change can begin to occur.
Often mindful groups take place in neutral surroundings away from the distractions of the individual’s home setting thus allowing the mind to be able to settle more readily. Also if you struggle with feeling distracted it can be very beneficial to practice in a group where you can pick up on the energy frequencies within the group. Calm energy from others may allow the individual to feel more centred. There have been many studies done on the benefits of meditation in communities with the findings often coming back that the ripple effect of the calming properties of group mindfulness can effect whole communities reducing violence and aggression. The group can collectively unify to have a common goal – even if it’s just to be more relaxed.

If you are reading this and think mindfulness in either a group or 1 to 1 setting can help you with your addiction (whether that be to a substance, a behaviour (sex, gambling, overeating, restrictive eating etc) or to a person (codependency) please call me on 07983726647 or email me at victoriaabadi66@gmail.com to arrange an initial appointment.

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Is someone really an addict if they have been prescribed medication for pain and can no longer function without the medication? This is a question I am often asked. They are certainly dependent on the painkiller but they are not necessarily an ‘addict’. They may well need clinical help coming off the substance due to the physical withdrawals they may experience. If they have maintained using the painkiller as prescribed and have not varied from the prescribed regime I would suggest they are not an addict in the sense of addiction being a disease. The addiction as a ‘disease’ model states that an addict will have lost the ability to control the use of the substance: that once they take the first one they will be physically compelled to consume more alongside being mentally obsessed to use more. Many people go into hospital and have to be treated with opiated painkiller. These patients as a rule do not go on and become ‘addicts’. They stop taking the pain killers, feel a little under the weather for a few days and then get up and carry on with their lives. It is those that cannot stop using once they have been given pain killers despite experiencing negative consequences that are ‘addicts’. Doctors are prescribing more and more opiated pain killers than ever before. Those that go on to become addicted to these opiated drugs end up facing many of the same problems as any other ‘addict’. They are not special and different and in some way ‘better than other addicts’ as is often the thought processes of people with addictions to OTC (over the counter) or prescription drugs. This thought process ties into their denial of the problem. Denial is one of the main characteristics of all ‘addicts’. They have moved into what is called non-medical use of OTC drugs and/or prescription drugs. The nonmedical use of a prescription or over-the-counter (OTC) medication implies that the user is using it for reasons other than those indicated in the prescribing literature or on the box label. The abuse of these medications is a national issue. Prescription medications are those pharmaceuticals dispensed by a pharmacist on the presentation of a prescription written by a physician, dentist, or other health care provider who is legally authorized to write prescriptions. OTC medications are pharmaceuticals that do not require a prescription and are sold on the shelves of markets, stores, and pharmacies.

Addiction to OTC medication and prescription medication needs to be treated in exactly the same way as any other addiction. For help with prescription painkillers please contact Victoria Abadi Therapies on 07983726647 or victoriaabadi66@gmail.com